Wednesday, June 3, 2009

When we hurt the ones we love

Today Drew asked about Faith and why she was still in the hospital. Andrea had to tell him that she wasn't in the hospital but in Heaven now. Drew cried and wanted to know if she was very old. Guess where he got that from? He always asked why our dog, Duke, died and not wanting him to worry about death, I always told him because Duke was very very very very old. Once he asked me if he was going to die and I told him not until he was very very very very old. He asked me if I was very very old and I told him No, you have to be older than Great Grandma to be very very old. No wonder he was shocked that God took his little friend to heaven. I think I made things worse for him and worse for Andrea. How confused he must be and I wonder how he will make sense of it? Its not the same for a child who hasn't spent months in the hospital hurting and sick. I'm so sorry, Drew. I'm so sorry, Andrea. I have let you both down so much.


Andrea said...

Oh Mom, it's not your fault. I think you were right to tell him you have to be very old. I didn't want him to worry about getting sick and dying either. It's just a hard situation no matter how you look at it. Love you!

Drew and Ava's Grandma said...

Thanks, Sweetheart, I love you, too. I can't wait to see you this weekend. Maybe we'll all feel a little better when we're together.

grammie said...

Drew sounds like such an inquisitive little man, I'm sure you didn't make it worse. Sometimes questions ARE very hard to answer - you did fine I'm sure. You are a wonderful G-ma. We are keeping the Duarte's in our hearts.
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